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Christian Brescia 00:04
Hello, everybody and welcome back to another episode of Monday's with Mindy. Hi Mindy!
Mindy Cohn 00:07
Hi Christian. Today we're going to have a conversation with my friend housewife in New Jersey and philanthropist, Dolores Catania. Dolores was invited to participate in the franchise from its inception in 2009 but elected to appear only as a reoccurring until she finally joined the cast as a regular in 2016. Born and raised in Paterson, New Jersey, one of five children to the Chief of Police, Lawrence and his waitress wife, Valerie Dolores had a very non traditional road to fame. She's been a waitress, a shampoo girl, a surgical assistant, but it was working in the prison system that made her passionate about helping less fortunate, especially family suffering in unfair circumstances. As the CO parent to two adult children, Dolores and her ex husband Frank have delighted audiences with their unconventional loving relationship as friends despite divorcing decades ago, they hope to model this for other former couples who are raising children together. In 2018. Dolores was voted fan favorite Miss Congeniality across the entire real housewives franchise. Outside of housewives. Dolores has been celebrated for her charitable work, particularly with women shelters and animal rescue organizations. In 2020. She was given the ambassador of hope award by modernities Medical Center in Brooklyn for bringing awareness to women's health issues. She wants to be remembered as the housewife who cared and I will let you know that she does care, and she is also a wonderful friend.
Christian Brescia 01:37
That's great to hear. Well, ladies and gentlemen, we are excited to get to know her. Let's introduce her Dolores Catania
Mindy Cohn 01:44
Dolores Catania 01:46
Hi! I want to shove it right in my face. I want to just squeeze
Mindy Cohn 01:52
Yeah, I miss you so much. I'm so excited. Thank you for doing an episode. We're so honored you agreed to come on.
Dolores Catania 02:01
Oh, come on!
Mindy Cohn 02:02
So we have 20 questions. I pick five we just start gabbing which you and I do not have a problem doing.
Dolores Catania 02:08
Christian will probably have to stop us.
Christian Brescia 02:12
I'll just put up a little clock!
Mindy Cohn 02:14
right. Yes, exactly. Dolores What's your favorite place in the world?
Dolores Catania 02:19
Mindy Cohn 02:21
Oh, fab. Are you are you set to go anytime sooner?
Dolores Catania 02:25
No, no, I'm not. I'm not I wish so how's the tanto is actually I like Positano better. It's so funny because I know the waiters there I have a driver that like when I'm walking through the cobblestone streets, I just
Mindy Cohn 02:40
Okay, you know what you have to promise we have to go together.
Dolores Catania 02:43
I promise you!
Christian Brescia 02:44
Mindy's never been to Italy. Can you believe this?
Dolores Catania 02:46
Mindy Cohn 02:48
Christian Brescia 02:48
You haven't been have you?
Mindy Cohn 02:49
Yes. Many times. What are you talking about?
Christian Brescia 02:52
Maybe it's Capri you haven't been to though i swore you hadn't been yet...
Mindy Cohn 02:54
not been to Capri. Okay, maybe that's that was it? I was like Italy what? Are you insane?
Christian Brescia 03:00
I love that there you gotta
Mindy Cohn 03:03
know complete. I have not? Yeah, um, oh, this is a good one day. Oh, Lord. What assumption do people make about you? That is wrong.
Dolores Catania 03:12
Well, I can that's actually easy for me, because the assumption is that people think Well, guys, right when I need them, they're like, oh, you're a princess. Oh, you're a girly girl like princess Dolores. That's what David used to say to me. Still. Really? Yes. I don't come off. I don't think I feel like I'm a scrappy girl. And I feel like I'm like, in any sense of the word. Not a princess. Although I'd like to be. I mean, you'd like the nicer things. But why does that make you a princess? I'm so interested what they think makes you a princess. I can tell you. So his not so pretty friends used to make fun of the glam and the the stuff that I do for work, right? Yeah, working. There's nothing wrong. There's no shame in being glamorous. No, but however, in your in your daily life. You don't wear a speck of makeup, right? No, but your natural beauty. What I'm saying is you don't put it on to put it on. So I think that there was a misconception with the glam and everything around it that made me I'm not approachable of all things. I'm glad people got to know me as my character is my true self. And I am approachable. Always. So yeah. Um, okay, leading right into the next question. Dolores, what do you splurge on? Oh, so I can tell you. I like to buy my clothes and shoes on sale. I hate spending money on those things. But I will splurge on a hotel like there's no way like there's no pause. There's no limit to the room that I have to be has to have the best view it has to be an upgrade. It has to happen. And I love to be driven around. I will splurge on drivers. I have a driver named Teddy who might have a driver. That's why Want to say? Oh my god, I love this so much. This is new to me. By the way, you too. Teddy is my driver. Oh my god. I cannot wait to read Teddy. You'll meet him. I promise don't meet. Oh my god. I love it. Wait, did this happen recently? Is this like in the last year? No. You've had him. I've lived Teddy. Even when I couldn't afford Teddy. I had a guy. No, I always wanted to make a bumper sticker when I was going through my divorce, saying it's the domestic help I miss the most. Like, I like my house to be cleaned. Although I'll Putz around and clean all day. You are you around but I like the cleaning lady to come five days a week if I could. I gotcha. That's good sports, though. What is your best habit? And your worst habit? My best habit is I'm eating my worst habit is eating. Like I am a habitual eater. I can eat all day. I love to eat and I feel like it's a bad habit. Because at the end of it, my habit is like, so the reason it's a habit. It's because like, I'm always thinking about doing it. I can't explain it. It's just that's what I do. I call it a habit because I don't eat because I need to because I'm hungry. I eat because you love it. I get it. I'm Dolores. What scares you? What scares me? Hmm. You know, I don't have an answer for you on that. Well, I'm kind of impressed and it makes me happy. Yeah, that means Okay, like, Am I scared? Like, I don't like to be enclosed spaces claustrophobia me. Like if that's a fear? Yeah, I guess the fear is of enclosed spaces. I don't like that. Like if I'm on the plane. I have to be in the front row or don't go. That's the way it is. Yeah. And then you know, that's really it. Not bad.
Christian Brescia 06:48
Not bad at all.
Mindy Cohn 06:50
It's so great thing. Have you been bingeing on anything? Now? Listen, I didn't know you were working. So you're in production. And I know, you probably can't tell me or us anything, which is fine, man. Jay, what's it going? high drama. Oh, no. Hi, Dr. I don't even know where to start. It's so bad. It's so bad. Let's put it this way. antiochos very happy right now. Oh, I bet high drama. Okay. There's a lot of content. There's a lot going on. A lot of emotions out of the box, you know? And yeah, it's you girls do not disappoint. Holy hell. Am I crazy? That's why I say holy hell is right. Like, every time we turn around, it's something else. Wow. All right. We kind of kept going on in my personal life. Okay. Is it mostly good? No, no. Okay. All right. Well, that's not for podcasting. That's for over a couple cocktails of FaceTime. And a face You know, I randomly FaceTime you for no reason. Oh, my God. No, no, Christian. I randomly like I don't even do this for anybody. There's such a, I'll just be like getting out of the shower and go, Wow, I missed her. And then I FaceTime her. Whom I did you like it's so annoying. We pining for each other. And we don't even spend any time together. But it's like, it's the same. I know. We just I told you we connected and that was it. It was sort of like sisters for life. Unbelievable. Um, so by the way, How are the kids? How cuz I know you're in New Jersey in New York. Is everybody working? Are they okay? I want to set up my apartment. And it was very interesting. New York is not having a Renaissance, as some of my friends would like to say, because people want to see that. But Is everyone okay, thank you. Yes. So Gabrielle started her working as a bat. And she calls me crying every day. Mindy. Why did I pick this job? Why did I because it struck me your heart can explode. I'm sure. Oh, yeah. It's my noxious and, you know, little Frankie's working for Louie Teresa's boyfriend. Yes, God. Fabulous. Love that guy. Oh, we realize, and Frankie adores him. They started a business together. This is wonderful. Yeah. So Frankie didn't want to go to that investment banking, but the way the city was going, that's why I wasn't sure. Yeah, exactly. So then he started this business. Frankie. I don't know what he does. But he does something with Louis No, he doesn't have to tell us. It's all right. So yeah, so Frankie's working for Louise got a great job. Great salary Commission on whatever it is doing. Gabrielle is doing well. And, um, you know, she's getting through the first stages of being a doctor, and having those horrible moments in life and death situations, of course. So I do get the phone call every night crying, and I'm like, No. Yeah, I can't believe that. Yeah, yeah. I mean, she's gonna have the temperament for it because she's just one of this her whole life. So I'm glad she landed somewhere and she doesn't want much of a lifetime. I'm like, you have to also have a life Gabrielle but I she's gonna be one of those Monday. No, a little bit of a workaholic. Oh boy, that sounds familiar. I'm from Yeah, I don't know. This one does not say no to anything. You can't fight the DNA Christian cannot fight the DNA. Oh my God does not say no to anything or anyone and is by the way the my mom at ease. I'm so sorry. I'm not gonna be there for the baseball game, Mindy show. First of all, it will not be complete without you. But I know you'll be at the next. A lot of things in life together we will do any person and we'll continue that. You know what I'm so shocked. Tell me like I thought that would have sold out in like two seconds. It's the whole cast. It's filming still weird. No day people are still weird about certain group things. I'm telling you. It's very random. It's so you're having a hard time getting people to come. I think we have 400 tickets sold right away. That's not even normal. Because the guys did a show in Atlantic City that house husbands. They sold 1500 tickets in two days. And I'm up to 400 when I have the whole cast, including the new housemates will be crying. And it's filming. And forget about the proud housewives from all over coming. We sold 100 tickets. Okay, you know what everyone's gonna come last minute. You'll see you'll be oversold. I feel it. I know. I know. I know. Everyone's just listening. What do you think? kind of waiting? Don't you think I'm with Mindy? Yeah, I
Christian Brescia 11:32
think a lot of people are still especially trying to feel out what's happening in the next week or two. Everyone's like, we're back on edge again. So I think people are waiting.
Mindy Cohn 11:39
We are. Yeah, I've been felt. Teachers t but New York and LA. I'm telling you things are getting shut down again. And I think by the time that this episode airs, people want to know, or not, we are. But so if you're you're listening right now and you're wondering, we are pre recording this? Yeah. So it's possible if things are a little precarious, I got to say, both in the city. And here the I've been in such the bubble of filming. So we're filming right double time, because they want to get that episodes in in case something happens, right?
Christian Brescia 12:11
Yes. Makes sense.
Mindy Cohn 12:13
I was trying, you are gonna get a run in last minute and you're going to sell out and be oversold. I have no doubt in my mind. I'm an absolute shock. To be honest. Not to worry. Not to worry. No, seriously. I mean, I know you can't elevate because you're not to worry. I'm serious. who still has their little Frankie. I look at him like I know before. I'm like, I'm like you was coming out of my sight for five minutes maybe. And he comes downstairs. I'm like, Oh my God. What do you do? Finally, I Frankie, explain what you do for a living. Wait, I'm so excited. I didn't hear about this. I'm thrilled for you.
Thank you so much. Louis funds a private equity firm that deals with buying distressed residential debt. Yeah, so I work I work for the private equity firm. It's great. I love it. Fantastic.
Mindy Cohn 13:03
I'm so happy for you. You're from your auntie from 3000 miles away. I'm very happy. About it's great seeing you. She's gonna be nice to my mom. That's wonderful. Yeah. Oh, my my kids talk. I don't really understand them. So that's why I have to tell them to tell you what they do.
Christian Brescia 13:24
It's the same with my parents. If it makes you feel better, and maybe it's an Italian it dies.
Mindy Cohn 13:28
It dies. I don't understand. I'm like, Okay. Anyway, you'll never repeat that. But by the way, either. Well, I but I guess I know what it is. I know what he's doing. Right. Right. So it still is in line with what he went to school for and what he's has expertise on. Yeah. So all good. So by the way, so during this whole situation, I know you've been remodeling your house. I know you've been in addition to what happened. Not gonna freakin so I find this decorator who I've worked with before, okay. And through this, like, I was living down the shore. I bought COVID. I was in like, performance. I was living two hours away because the house wasn't livable. And I left everything to the decorator to handle. The decorator told me things were being watered this and that. Leave me money. This company is going to work with you. They want you to only have their furniture in the house. I'm going to have it delivered. He calls me we're filming. We're getting ready to film. My house should be finished. He's like I'm on my way with the moving truck in the crew. It's white glove treatment. That's what you gave me the money for and he never showed up. Mindy. I don't even have a chair. Oh my god, where it's a Oh my God with all your money and no furniture in that house. Ah, unbelievable. So now here I have two kids who graduated from college had nowhere to go. She has four dogs. He has one I have to I got a townhouse. This is too far for where Gabrielle works. She had to move Went to the house with one faucet. No furniture, no lighting, lightbulbs in the ceiling, and crying. Again, mom course because now you can order furniture because the couch is 26 weeks away. Excuse me, the couch I got for my New York apartment took forever. No, I understand it's a real thing. I'm ready to buy floor samples. I'm taking used furniture in just to fill the house. And that's what happened. Oh my god, that is drama. Like when I did speak to him. And I said, Listen, I I'm sorry, I've never blasted anybody. But this is gonna be filmed, like you didn't show up. And he's like, Oh, really? And then he started making crazy stuff up to me. Like make crazy accusations. Wow. And I was just like, you know what, this isn't worth it. To me. This just isn't worth it. I'll recover. Gabrielle I'll have to sleep on a mattress for a little while and call it a day. So Dolores, you know what, I really want to talk to you about this, because we've talked a little bit about it. But I'd really like you to see where you are right now in this you know, you are the perfect example of someone who did not go looking and has become so crazy famous. I and yeah, yeah. And with that, you know, with notoriety comes people who are either leeches, or people who write you wrong. And it's sort of like for not wanting this and looking for it. And it's come upon you and you have to navigate this all by yourself. Like you don't have to like learn on the fly. Right? Yeah. Like here this person was doing you have solid, right? So that's a fear that I can have is, like a lot of people are afraid of that, like in this business, like anybody can say something about you. And if it sticks, yep, you're in trouble. Right? Right. It's only your reputation. We've talked about, that's all you have is your reputation. That's it. That's your currency. That's your currency. So you know, thank God, I've lived a pretty clean to see some life. Yes, you're a good person. And you just hope that people just don't want to hurt you. But so there was a thing that I had went through, living in like total solitude down the shore during the winter. Everything was great. And I just needed to be alone for a couple of months. I really did. Okay, that's major for you. It was major for me. And I was just literally alone, except for when I had to come up here for things and I even stopped coming back up here. And that's how I didn't follow through with what was going on with my house. But you know, sometimes you just have to do that. Mindy, right? You've been in the game a long time. Did you ever ever do that? I we've talked about it. I heard monetize. I mean, I am the sign on the cave that says Do Not Disturb sleeping for the winter. I made it I do because I just need to and I had to learn that about myself. You know that I can't be as adorable and loving and giving if I'm not feeling it for myself. Yeah. So I do I it's required. I think everyone has to do that sometime take a mental break. Whether you're in the business or not in the business, no matter what your life is. Sometimes you have to take a mental break from everything and step out of where you are. Because if you don't step out of the environment you're in, it's like a hamster cage. It just keeps going the same way. Relationships keep going the same way. Your thoughts like it's another reason I instantly fell in love with you. And I've such mad respect for you. Because I think you were so honest with who you are. And look, the train that I'm on now. There is you have been so honest, like, I don't know how long this is going to last. So I'm on this train. And I'm going to say yes. And you've embraced it so beautifully. And honestly, a lot of people I just think get very dishonest very quickly. You have not Thank you. Uh huh. How do you stay that way? Well, because I know what I signed up for. And I feel like I owe it to the people that watch me. Yeah, to be honest with them. It's not easy to put your relationship out there when the person on the other end really doesn't want to be a part of it. Yeah, yeah. And it's tough. That's right, man. That's like, you know, I can't lie about my plastic surgery because no one should think that I lost weight. Like, okay, yeah, I did. I went on a crash diet. I lost five pounds. But I also went and got some surgery, and I also eat what I want and I don't always do what I'm supposed to do. I'm not at the gym every day. You know? I'm just not. Okay, so I have to ask just based on the last year and a half of surgeries. Are you now addicted? Are you gonna stop? Can you like no, I'm not gonna stop. Oh my god. You are like a full fledged like, I love this. Again, unabashedly like it's Christian. It's one of the things I love about her. She's like, I like that. I have no shame in that game. You're so stop. I'm not just incredible. So my last surgery when I got my vagina done, let me tell you something. Yeah. Christian, when that was healed, like that was a rough one. That was a appeal. And let me just tell you, she and I share not. That's but we share high pain tolerance. I mean, you're not talking to a sissy here. She and I both we can handle a lot of pain. So when she said, Oh my God, if I will marry I mean, I know dying I couldn't walk for one of my legs was the size of two of my legs. And oh, I mean, when it was healing, everything was like I got a laser lipo full body laser lipo on my back, my arms, my legs, when it when it heals it, I wasn't sleeping, when it heals it itches. So I couldn't scratch it because it was too painful. So felt like Oh, oh, my God from the inside out worth it in the end. But you know, every time I say I'm done, I wasn't. And then I it goes away. And I'm like, huh, yeah. So here's what I want to recommend. Because you asked, I know you didn't ask, um, just don't do everything at once. Well, that's my problem. Because the downtime, I don't have a lot of downtime, right? I can think about that. Sure. You just to not head to toe, it's happening. It's as much as the doctor can do will do. Well, but I go to pretty conservative doctors. I love him. I don't know him. But I love what he does. His work is incredible. And I love his disposition. And I know that he takes care of you which is to me the most important thing and my doctors are very good man. Both of them. So from the neck up is Dr. Carol lac from the neck down is Dr. Joseph Michaels. Dr. Joseph Michaels. So Dr. parallax was the bartender on watch what happens live last week. Oh my god, I didn't see it. How terrible. Oh my god, he must love that. That's amazing. He loved it. Big awesome last minute. So like a proud mother. I went to see him because he was so excited. By the way did he do Margaret to Margaret on March senior. He just did some work on her. She looks great. The first one he did the second one so he back tests to fix now I know exactly what you're saying. Yeah. Oh my god. Amazing. Well, listen, I know why your fan favorite. I know why Andy Cohen is up your ass. I love you. Know, can I tell you knowing Andy as I do, he does not have favorites. And he doesn't. He has favorites here. loves you. Oh my god. I've never seen anything like it to be quite honest with you. Thank you. No, I don't know. Like, I just we talk like normal. Right? Like, I've never felt but he genuinely loves you. I appreciate that. I appreciate that. He just actually texts me before for something that I'll tell you later. I can't reveal but oh, no, but like, you'll tell me I love it. And I she knows that I'm default. Everything I have you noticed how faulty I am. See, it's hard when you tell someone you're the vault but then it has to be proven over time. So I think we've proven right old school. I listen. I know who's the bolt and who isn't in three seconds when I meet somebody and by the way, she's my vault. I mean, she she knows the knows the know of everything else. Yes. So yeah, anyway. Oh, yes. comfortably you can sleep knowing that I am true friends. 100%. I do. And that's what I told Christian. Yeah. So much. Yeah, of course I did. I tell everyone First of all, whenever, you know, we don't have a lot of pictures together anything but when I do post you or something people are so my friends cannot believe that we're friends and I talked about you with such high esteem, which is the truth. They're not blowing smoke. As you know. People are baffled. They just, they're like we don't really and I said I'm telling you we're soul sisters. I can't explain it. But people love us. Love My friend. instant connection. Yeah, pretty much I know the feeling. And I'm so proud to say that I'm friends with you because everybody adores her. She's a part of everybody's like childhood, all the good memories. You know, you're staying away from
Christian Brescia 24:08
I'm like, I made friends with Mindy comment. I just want. Like, I'm like, I just want you to know like, I remember. I call her I call her right now.
Mindy Cohn 24:19
Forever. And you have and you have to I have because I'm like, look like how please like I'm like one of those. I'm like, oh god, I can't believe I just did this to her. But I'm always allowed, always allowed. Anyway, I love you. Thank you for doing this and being on an episode of Monday. So it's Monday. I couldn't wait for you to ask. I'm so excited. I'm so obsessed with you. As you know. I love you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Christian Brescia 24:41
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